Wednesday, November 27, 2019
How Your Attitude Impacts Your Job Search
How Your Attitude Impacts Your Job SearchHow Your Attitude Impacts Your Job Search1Looking for a job can be exciting, even energizing, as you contemplate the possibilities of different positions and the impact they could have on your career and your future.However, as the weeks drag on with a steady stream of repetitive tasks- writing cover letters, submitting applications, participating in interviews- the initial thrill of the hunt may wane, dampening the disposition of even the most positive person.Unfortunately, such creeping negativity could make a job search less likely to succeed. While your education, skills, and experience are important to potential employers, so, too, is your attitude.Think for a moment about your favorite colleagues, and youll understand why attitude is so critical to success. You definitely want your teammates to have the skills and knowledge to do their jobs, but youd much rather work with someone who is pleasant and positive than a person who is a negati ve jerk. Hiring managers feel the same way, and theyll be judging your attitude during an interview.As much as you may think your resume makes or breaks your opportunity to get hired, its not the most important factor, notes an article from Forbes. While past work experience may qualify you for specific job roles, employers are always seeking out achievers and motivated performers. If your past experience is limited, but you walk into your interview with an optimistic, confident energy, people will notice.Here are a few tips to make sure youre exuding that energy and maintaining the right attitude as you seek a new positionDont be hostile or arrogant.This probably seems obvious, but its worth remembering. As noted in an article from the Undercover Recruiter, if you dont present yourself as approachable, a hiring manager is likely to move on to the next candidate. The same goes for showing the right amount of self-confidence. Nobody wants to work with somebody who regards themselves as a gift from God, the article says. Even if you are amazing at your job and could well be the best candidate for the job, by no means should you start shouting this from the rooftops, itll only send your interviewer running a mileExpress positivity and optimism.Smile as you greet your interviewer. If they ask how your job hunt is going, offer an upbeat response, even if youre tired of the search. And dont let a few rejections make you question your skills. Remember that you have much to offer as an employee. Be confident without being arrogant, describing your potential contributions to the company in clear and positive terms.Dont criticize former employers or coworkers.It may be tempting to speak ill of particularly lousy bosses or colleagues when youre asked about past positions. Dont do it. Maybe you were let go, and that is emotional, says an article from Mashable. But that shouldnt bleed into your presentation- its negativity that the hiring manager doesnt want to absprache w ith. Your attitude and story need to always come across with positivity and confidence.Remember that a good attitude gives you power.Just as a negative attitude tends to rub off on the people around you, a positive attitude can make them desire your company. If youre talking to someone who is set to make a hiring decision, which image do you want to project? When you are upbeat, people willwant you on their team, says an article from Success Rockets. You will connect with them to a greater extent, especially if they are positive people, too. Your words will be exuberant and powerful.As a job seeker, youre probably going to have an occasional bad day, when it seems like youre never going to break through and land the perfect position. Thats understandable. But if you remember the importance of attitude and focus on staying positive, you can overcome those downtimes and make sure youre putting your best foot forward in all communication with potential employers.Keep in mind that the b est way to feel better about your search is to see it through to a successful conclusion, landing you in your dream job. Imagine yourself in that position, put a smile on your face, and stay positive. It might just help you make your dream come true.BROWSE OPEN JOBS
Friday, November 22, 2019
3 Strong Signs an Employer Is Ghosting You
3 Strong Signs an Employer Is Ghosting You3 Strong Signs an Employer Is Ghosting YouIf youre unfamiliar with ghosting, it goes a little like this Youre in a relationship (it can be with a friend, loved one, family member, and more to the point here, a profil employer). You ace the interviews, and you think everything is going great. Then the employer suddenly drops off of the face of the earth- and youre left in the dark, holding your work-from-home dreams in your hands and wondering what the heck happened.Why would a potential employer ghost a job candidate? Well, the long and the short of it is that theyre probably not interested in you anymore, and might not know how to tell you that. It could be because they dont want to deal with the rejection (even if theyre the ones doing the rejecting), so they opt for avoidance to bypass those icky feelings. Or it could be because they worry that they might be subjected to a barrage of questions from job candidates as to why theyre not getti ng the job (and theyre afraid of a potential lawsuit from an upset job candidate).Plus, some employers dont respond after job interviews- and not only is it unfair, it just plain stinks.Here are three signs that an employer is ghosting you1. The employer doesnt respond to emails. It doesnt matter if youve just sent in your job application or if youve already had multiple job interviews. When an employer isnt interested in you, they wont respond to your emails.While you can (and should) send follow up emails to ensure that they got your job application and to reinforce how much youd like to work for the company, if youre not getting a response, theres a good chance youre getting ghosted. Dont let it trip you up keep on with your job search. Its their loss.2. You always get theirvoicemail. Imagine youve had great communication with an employer. Youve emailed, had a job interview or two with the company, and even spoke on the phone afterwards. Then, the employer goes radio silentand no t just for a day or two, but weeks at a time.You might be getting ghosted, gentle job seeker. Unless the hiring manager went on a month-long vacay to Machu Picchu, theres really no reason why he or she wouldnt return your calls- or why theyre going straight to voicemail in the first place- unless theyarent interested anymore.3. The hiring manager isalways in a meeting.Lets say that your future boss or hiring manager has an assistant fielding their phone calls. If you were once put right through when you called and now cant get themon the phone to save your life, this person might be avoiding you.Getting ghosted by an employer is unprofessional, but that doesnt make it any less painful. Take solace in the fact that an employer who disappearsprobably isnt the kind of boss you want anyway. Stay focused and positive, and know that your flexible job is right within reach.
Thursday, November 21, 2019
2 eye-opening experiences that trigger immediate clarity and behavior change
2 eye-opening experiences that trigger immediate clarity and behavior change2 eye-opening experiences that trigger immediate clarity and behavior changeIn the Pulitzer Prize winning novel, 1776, David McCullough tells the story of John Greenwood, a sixteen-year-old boy who in May of 1775 heard news of Lexington and Concord. The American Revolutionary War welches underway and Greenwood resolved to walk the 150 miles by himself to Boston with little more than the clothes on his back.Stopping at wayside taverns, hed play songs on his fife for soldiers who would ask him where he welches going. In Greenwoods words I told them I welches going to fight for my country.Once he got to Cambridge, he learned of the battle raging at Bunker Hill. Immediately, we welches seized-upon by a gruesome scene. While walking down the road leading to the battle, wagons passed him by carrying piles of dead bodies and severely wounded men.Greenwood was terrified and wished he hadnt enlisted. I could positivel y feel my hair stand on end, he said. But then something happened that forever changed him. He saw a lone soldier walking down the road. In his own wordsA Negro man, wounded in the back of his neck, passed me and, his collar being open and he not having anything on except his shirt and trousers, I saw the wound quite plainly and the blood running down his back. I asked him if it hurt him much, and he did not landseem to mind it. He said no, that he was only to get a plaster put on it and meant to return. You cannot conceive what encouragement this immediately gave me. I began to feel brave and like a soldier from that moment, and fear never troubled me afterward during the whole war.Triggering Event 1 Seeing Someone Else Operate Without FearGreenwood was changed in an instant. He saw a man seemingly unaffected by what should have been an excruciatingly painful wound.He saw a man who had passed a personal point of no return. A lone soldier who was so absorbed by a situation and a cau se that he didnt notice his own pain.Greenwood realized in that moment his extreme self-consciousness, which was holding him back. In seeing someone else operate from a higher mental plane, Greenwood was immediately brought-up to that plane himself.Courage, commitment, and confidence replaced fear. He stopped worrying about himself. He stopped noticing every sensation in his body. Instead, his mind was captured by the moment and importance of what was happening around him. In his own words, he never was troubled by fear again throughout the remainder of the war.If youre having a hard time being focused, or if youre plagued by fear to do what you believe you should be doing, then you need exposure to battle. You need to see someone who has passed their point of no return. You need to see someone who no longer cares about temporary discomfort.How do you get such exposure?You have a few options.When it comes to Greenwood, he had to walk 150 miles on foot to get to the place of battle. You may need to walk the equivalent of 150 miles on foot to actually see whats going on at the frontlines of whatever battle youre attempting to fight.Who is at the frontlines?Who are the battle heroes in your field or cause?How can you get closer exposure to these people?How can you see them at work?How can you tap into their mindset and mentality?You may need to work or sacrifice for a few months or years to get such exposure. Yet, this preparation period will soften the soil of your heart and mind, allowing you to be completely open and receptive when the moment comes.In the book, The Compound Effect, Darren Hardy describes having such an experience. He had invested in a mentorship with a man named, Paul J. Meyer. In Hardys wordsWhenever I thought I was really doing things, really playing at a high level, Id get around Paul he was my reality check. What he did before lunch was mind-boggling to me After spending a couple of hours with Paul, hearing about all his plans and ventures and activities, my head would spin. Just trying to make sense of all he had going on exhausted me. After time with Paul, Id want to go take a nap But my association with him raised my game. His walking pace was my running pace. It expanded my ideas about how big I could play and how ambitious I could be. You have to get around people like thatOnce youve been properly exposed to whats possible, theres no going back. As Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr. has said, A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions.You absolutely can create these transformational experiences. But youll need to proactively to put yourself in the heat of battle. You cant have such experiences on the sidelines. You must make yourself vulnerable, even with doubts and fears streaming through your system.You must pay the price to see what you need to see. And when you do, youll be changed. Youll stop worrying about what other people think. Youll stop worrying about your own reputat ion. Youll stop worrying about the pain or fear youll face.Another way such an experience can be triggered is within the walls of your own mind. Albert Einstein has said, Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited to all we now know and understand, while imagination embraces the entire world, and all there ever will be to know and understand.You can imagine yourself being that person who has no fear. You can imagine yourself being that lone soldier unaffected by something that would cripple fruchtwein others.You can lead with your actions and watch as your emotions follows suit. As Harvard psychologist, Jerome Bruner, has said, Youre more likely to act yourself into feeling, than feeling yourself into action.Speak with power.Speak with conviction.Write down in the most powerful language you can muster who you are, and who you intend to be. Write it down and watch it happen.Act with conviction.Yes, act as if. Play the part and watch as it becomes the part. There is no identity within you that is devoid of context and role. You are always acting a part and playing a role. For most people, this whole acting geschftliches miteinander is unconscious and unchosen. For most people, the role they play is attributed as their innate personality.But imagination is far more important than knowledge. When it comes to a chosen identity, air on the side of imagination. Knowledge will keep you stuck. It will keep you attempting to be objective about something that you can never be objective about.Decide who youll be. Act in power. And do pay whatever price you can to have the transformational experiences, that like Greenwood, will expand you beyond any point of return.Triggering Event 2 Have Someone You Love Tell It To You StraightIts really nice for the ego to get constant praise and affirmation. However, having people around you who hold you to a continually higher voreingestellt is powerful for your long-term development.Henry B. Eyring, a forme r business professor at Stanford and also a religious leader, tells the story of getting straight As one semester. He was taking several challenges physics classes and was excited to share his success with his mother, yet was humbled by her response. Thats what we expect of you, she told him. Reflecting on that experience several decades later, Eyring stated, Sometimes the greatest kindness we could receive would be to have someone expect more from us than we do, because they see more clearly our divine heritage.According to loads of research in psychology, its very important to be surrounded by people and leaders who hold you to a high standard and expectation. According to The Pygmalion Effect, we as people rise or fall to the expectations of those around us.Receiving praise and affirmation is indeed important. But rarely will the affirmation trigger within you a powerful conviction that you can do better. Instead, what you need is someone to hold you to a higher standard than you hold yourself.You need someone who you know loves you to tell you that you could do better. Thats one of the reasons I decided to marry my wife. Other girls would tell me how great I was, and that didnt inspire me to be better. For some reason, I never felt like I could impress my wife. I always felt like I had to earn her approval and respect. That created a challenge that led me to becoming more than I thought I was.Even still, after nearly 6 years of being married, Lauren will make comments that light a fire under me. Despite being physically fit, she recently told me I was starting to get a Dad-Bod. Although I entirely disagree, Im now even more motivated to get into the best shape of my life. I want to prove to her that I can be more fit than I was when we were in our early 20s.Getting critical feedback and being around nay-sayers is two completely different things. You need to know that the feedback youre getting is honest. You need to know that the person who is talking to y ou cares about your best interest. You need to know that they want you to be successful and expect more of you than youre currently expecting of yourself.Recently, I submitted two book proposals to my publisher for the next two books Im going to write. I was humbled continuously as my agent would send back drafts and tell me, What are you doing? Youre so much better than this.While writing Willpower Doesnt Work, I had hired Ryan Holiday to help me develop the book and he would continually say things similar. You can do so much better than this, hed tell me.You need people around you who hold you to a higher standard.You need people to tell you when youre not performing at the level you could be.You need hard feedback that will cause you to truly reflect and dig deeper into yourself than youve been willing to dig in a long time.You then need to go to a quiet place and ask yourself some hard questions. You probably need to meditate and or pray. You need to redevelop a sense of resolve and commitment to play at a higher level.You then need to do the hard work of pushing past your emotional blocks. You need to rise above your current sense of who you believe you are. You need to exceed even the expectations of those who believe you can do better. You need to show up at a level no one else is willing to go.This is how you get to the next level, and the next.You get humbled by people who know you could do better.You then rise up to their expectations and exceed them. Because ultimately, you need to hold yourself to higher standards than anyone else is willing to hold you. But in reservierung to get to that level, you need to be told straight that you could do much better. You need to be humble and willing to receive that feedback. You then need to prove them wrong and show them that youre so much more than even they think you can be.I love that my wife recently called me out. Im more committed that ever to get into the best shape of my life.I love that my agent rece ntly called me out. It led me to produce the best writing Ive ever done in my life. Im on the brink of writing two books that will fundamentally change the trajectory of my career. I couldnt have done that if I had an agent who had low expectations for me and just wanted a quick-win. No. She pushed me further than I was willing to push myself. She reminded me of the vision I have for myself, and told me to get up and play a bigger game.ConclusionWho is holding you to a higher standard?How often are you getting honest and real feedback?Who are your mentors?Who are your friends?How regularly are you have these 2 type of triggering experiences?Ready to Upgrade?Ive created a cheat sheet for putting yourself into a PEAK-STATE, immediately. You follow this daily, your life will change very quickly.Get the cheat sheet hereThis article was originally posted on Medium.com.
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